Hey, so as I’ve mentioned before, I have had a lot more things added to my plate and while I’m so grateful, I get overwhelmed at times. When I was a pre-adult, you know, like my high school and college years, I thought being an adult would be a mix of Girlfriends andLove Jones… I was clearly wrong, and it’s upsetting me and my homegirls. (Major shoutout to Hazel London) Adulting is hard, our parent’s and the generation between faced completely different challenges than we are facing now and also, no one really, truly prepared us for this. But I think we can get through it together. Anyways, With that said, let’s work through a few scenarios together, shall we?
*Please note that I understand my perspective on adulting is based on my privilege and that’s why I want your perspective onadulting.*
You spend most of your day (8am-6pm) at work or in class. When you get home, all you want to do is sleep, cry, watch Scandal (or Africa Magic) and eat your life away. Despite your heart’s desires, you have a 1 million word essay andalso your last workout was that dance class you took freshmen year of high school.
1.) Prioritize. Your best bet is a to dolist. It’s not realistic to put pressure on yourself to fulfill everything on your to do list if you have thirty items on it. Think of the most pressing matters, and get started on them.
2.) Douse your workspace with motivation (and the Blood of Jesus). No but seriously, whatever motivates you, surround yourself with that to help you get started, but remember, stay focused. Sometimes, the things that motivate us can distract us.
Your friends haven't seen you in what feels like months, you have more than 2 missed calls from your mom, AND you have to respond to all of those emails for work. Basically, you're getting pulled in like 70 directions.
1.) Call your mom. I don't know about you, but after half of a missed call, my mom goes off.
2.) Stop putting pressure on yourself. If people can’t understand that you have a lot going on, then that’s their problem, not yours. However, if you do feel like being around people you love will take a load off of you,spend time with them. I don't however think it’s in your best interest to be around people who make you feel bad for having responsibilities.
You know you need some time off, like serious, next level self-care, but even figuring that out is stressful.
1.) Sis, yoga and green tea are not the only types of self-care. As I’ve said before, sometimes, it’s taking that much needed nap or taking out those braids that you left in for a little too long (I’ll pray for your edges, btw).
2.) Make it personal. Look for what actually relieves your stress.
3.) Be consistent. Aim for at least once a week.
*OMG, I really should take my own advice.*
Any tips for this whole adulting thing? Please share below!