Here's The Tea: 5 Things I've Learned About "Self-Love"

So.. almost a year ago, I wrote a very cliche and quite frankly pointless post about loving yourself and how easy and awesome it is...

Here we are now and I’m looking back and wondering what I was on to shove down you guys’ throat how fun and easy it is to practice self-love.

First and foremost, looking back, I know now that I wasn’t taking any of the advice that I was giving (not a shock though, right?).

I know better now.

There are at least a million reasons why you should love yourself but what if there are (seemingly) so many reasons not to? I’ve had enough experiences to show me that this whole self- love thing is easier said than done. The first step to this realization though, was being really, really, REALLY real with myself and (as I always say) calling myself out on my own sh*t. So as I’m working through that, I want to share a few things I’ve learned so far.

1.) I’m really awesome (and so are you)


    Point. Blank. You are worth it. YOU MATTER.

2.) You deserve love (and other good things)

I’m sure we’ve seen Steve Harvey and friends telling us “if you don’t love yourself, no one else will”. Not only is it off base, it’s dangerous. You deserve every good thing and person that comes your way, whether you think so or not.

3.) Self-love is a journey, not a destination (wow, did I just say that)

As cliche as it sounds, there is no peak of loving yourself. You learn new and beautiful things about yourself everyday so it’s completely pointless to give yourself a deadline.

4.) It’s more than just being physically attractive

Like I said earlier, you contribute real, important things to the world, yeah I fully endorse and promote dropping fire selfies and gassing yourself in the mirror, but you’ve got to dig deeper and really appreciate you, all of you.

5.) It’s okay if you don’t

There’s this weird thing that people do, like putting pressure on people to “love themselves” as if it’s this easy task that everybody can do. NEWSFLASH: it’s not.

Alright ya’ll that’s all I’ve got.



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